Often it has been admitted that a fair and objective judgment usually happens when the person himself/herself is anonymous. Well, if you are goodlooking it is certain that you have an advantage over those who are not and you may not dislike your being preferred. If you wear sexy outfits and win over the interviewer's view then you still feel all right about your ways and looks. If you have a mesmerizing voice, it is just so easy to get bargains and appointments on the phone. BUT if you are rejected because somebody has beaten you in charms and not in merits then you may halt to revise your past pleasures!
In the past months, I just fancied to leave anonymous comments for some fellow blogger friends and guess what. I have been praised and welcomed so warmly that I prefer to be Anonymous than 'me'. Then there is this great setback: how can I tell them that it is 'me' and not Anonymous!
P.S. Don't be naughty now. I don't mean ...
I found this on the web: "if you are goodlooking enough, no one will mind if you stalk them." See!
P.S. 2: TV seance claims to have reached John Lennon.
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Too true! Very recently, I had this exact experience. I was taking a workshop where, for some reason (must be my looks!), the instructor seemed to favor me over the rest of the students... but I felt *terrible*... especially when I noticed that some of them were literally begging him for some attention.
Now, I wasn't exactly born yesterday! I've had the short end of the stick on other occasions, and it does NOT feel nice. And I've learned that ultimately, it's the irresponsibility of the so-called authority figure when s/he takes the path of least resistance and compromises everything and everyone by behaving in such a way as to arouse jealousy, vanity, etc..
So finally, one day, someone dropped into the class... and suddenly, she became the favorite. Whaaaat?!! And unlike me, she seemed to relish the attention she was getting, rather than try to deflect it.... And I saw so clearly how this instructor was actually enjoying his power....
Yuck!
So, true to form, I sent him a formal e-mail to tell him that I wouldn't be continuing with his classes and that I'd appreciate a refund. And of course, he wanted to know what was wrong... and so, of course, I told him. :) He thanked me very much for my "feedback" and assured me that this wouldn't happen again.
But for one reason or another, things came up, and I ended up missing those last two classes anyway. I think I was a little embarrassed for myself too... that I hadn't spoken up earlier.
Tamara--when I was in my fiftrh grade in pimary school I was disfavoured very badly and I never forget that. It was so awful. As a teacher though I always tried to be as fair as I could make it possible.
well it hurts in any way one feels rejected!voice-wise, looks-wise,...
We are living in this superficial world & it seems we got to adapt instead of trying to resist it :-)
Very good topic.
It is true that better looking people are more favourable treated.personally though i don't care so much for a persons looks.For me i like people whom i find intellectually stimulating.That to me is more attractive than a persons physical appearance.
dr o2 -- I disagree with you that placing emphasis on appearances is an artifice of our modern "superficial" times. On the contrary... I feel that it is only our modernness that has allowed us the luxury to even have this kind of debate.
Ultimately, humans are members of the animal kingdom... and the ways of animals speak clearly of our own ancient ways... of being naturally attracted and submissive to a member of our clan who appears stronger, better, etc.. It is all quite instinctual... and if you had to intellectualize it, I suppose you could say it's all for the sake of survival. And indeed... the fact that "beautiful" people are more successful says it all.... And for better or for worse, it has always been thus.... :\
I agree with you Tamara, but I think history can show us that what's attractive is not just good-looks. Take a look at the leaders of the world - not many of them were/are good-looking guys. Of course power is attractive, but power is gained, not given at birth.
Nyx... I was going to say...! There's nothing more attractive than self-confidence. ;-)
Nyx, Tamara-- it's difficult to say. How can we say people who have not been tall, good-looking, well-backed by any favour have managed to get what they deserve?
Well... there IS such a thing as personal "force"/charisma, what have you. And there are a variety of reasons why some people are endowed with this essential quality... it can be innate (good looks; raised by confident parents; etc.) or it can be (l)earned.
Then again, there's the Indian concept of general karma... whereby the ease with which we come by our various gifts is a function of causes that are not so easy to pinpoint.
I think that about covers it! ;)
Tarmara-- so true, you wraped it so well. It is the reality and there is no way out of it. So far away reality can often be from truth!
"So far away reality can often be from truth!"
I know. :( Hey, I'm looking forward to death! :)
Oh! Come on ! Tamara, it has nothing to do with Karma.
Behrooz
When night comes and you too are dark, lie down and be dark with a will.
And when morning comes and you are still dark stand up and say to the day with a will, "I am still dark."
It is stupid to play a role with the night and the day.
They would both laugh at you.
-Khalil Gibran-
Tamara-- you said it. It is all I wish for. It is not because life is bad, because life is sham, is just a play.
Jac--you know what this can be done, or possibly only said, by people like Gibran but not me. If I am to be me, then I would not listen to what Gibran has said either! See it is a silly paradox, isn't it?
Behrooz jan, I think life is to be lived. It's such a short moment and we should try not to waste it.
nyx--thanks for the kind word, but not to waste it for what? Short or long it is just a game.
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